So that's why your porn consumption was cheating a few weeks ago! She was setting up the stage for this conversation. Unless she had made clear all these years that porn is cheating? I know some people are like this, but considering that porn is the #1 content seen on the web, it's more likely that most people don't see it as such. I'd be very very surprised that your W herself has never watched it over all these years, especially if your sex life was limited.
All of this to say that you have the right attitude to take a little distance now that things are clearer, but also new. She's apparently trying to be excused for her behavior and silence is likely to be your strongest reply.
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