Baby steps, patience and uncertainty

[labug]

Yesterday's post was a bit rambling.

I felt the need to distill it.

1. I stopped being a victim.

a. I stopped judging me so harshly and that allowed me to work on
not judging others. I still judge but when it happens, I
remind myself, not my circus...-or ask myself, Did anyone ask
for my help or my opinion?

b. I continue to work toward strong emotional boundaries. I used
to not only feel responsible for others, I also absorbed their
feelings. I was on whatever crazy ride my friend or family
member was on. It kept me in almost constant fight or flight,
very out of balance. If you live with someone with a mental
illness, this is a must but it's important for everyone.

c. I learned to say no. If I'm doing things I don't want to do, I
have no one to blame but myself.

d. I'm learning to say Yes to the right things.

2. I have a right to all my feelings and I take responsibility for all my feelings.

3. I live in today, I let go of the past, I'll take care of tomorrow when it gets here. Do I have long range plans? Sure, a few. Like the trip the end of this month, but I'm not going to worry about the particulars other than what I can control today.

4. I'm working hard to let go of attachments, in the unhealthy sense, to people, places and things.

I think that's it.