Thanks Job for your kind words. I guess my biggest struggle is this whole "no contact" "dark & dim""LRT" is just fancy talk for leave them be and get on with your life. It is not fighting for your marriage but giving up. H is free with no resistance or contact from his wife or children.
I mean Job am I fooling myself into thinking he'll wake up? Having him live so far away in a place we never even visited. He has begun a new life with a clean slate and the OW meets him every weekend. She preyed on us to influence this outcome. I fear with the passage of time we are nothing but long lost relatives. He is becoming a ghost to us too. My girls are not more forgiving with time and distance.
I am moving forward. I will survive but letting it all go without resistance is not how I am wired. Friends and family will tell you I am fiercely loyal. I wonder if H is counting on that loyalty to be so cruel. Indifference is far more cruel than anger.
Just struggling with LRT and going dark when H has run away. I think I am really being just a LBS with no other options.
M:25 years at BD w/ 2 daughters BD: 5/14 Separated 6/14 - H moved cross country w/OW D Final 9/17
“I can be changed by what happens to me. But I refuse to be reduced by it.” ― Maya Angelou
