NYE was very easy to focus on myself. Very unwell and in bed by 1900. Still the positive is that by virtue of 3 minutes I haven't been sick in 2015.
Originally Posted By: Vanilla
I will say again pretty much everything she has said about my behaviour in the relationship is true but only half the story. here is the crux of your issue. This clearly is not correct. Jim you are not accepting what we tell you. w is not taking responsibility for herself. You are, stop.
It is the half I must own. no you don't!
I do get that my wife isn't taking responsibility for her parts, I could list a bunch but the main thing is that she shut down on me (and everyone else) and has 'decided' that its my fault.
What I do recognise is that I could have been a much MUCH better husband if I wasn't too absorbed in my own insecurity and feeling hard done by because my wife had shut down. Im accepting that I had a significant part in the failure of my marriage (which left her open to an affair) and I need to change that stuff about me. I would have gladly done so a long time ago had I listened and understood.
Anyways today has the more pressing issue that MIL is up to stay and so I need to make things as unawkward as I can. Which in truth I guess means carrying on like nothing has happened and resisting the urge to tell MIL about OM1. Friendly house mate
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
