Gosh Train. You hit the nail on the head with everything I have done, been doing and have continued to do with H in regards go not the right way to communicate. Really and truly what I need from his is pretty simple. I just want to feel important and like I matter. I want him to go back to the man he was for the last few months that seems to have disappeared these last few weeks. I know he is stressed about work. He tends to coil up in a corner when he's stressed ... This is how we got to BD and OW before because he was stressed and I was quiet and short about his lack of attention and when I thought we were happy it only took a couple weeks for our world to be turned upside down
I just get very anxious that he's thinking about OW or just not going to come home again because last time I had no warning (heIl we slept together the day before!). So now when I see him on his phone texting it stresses me out and my tension rises which probably changes how I communicate with him. I guess I just feel like we are in a similar situation as him being stressed and now he's not acting towards me the way he is. When I bring up to him that he seems distant and isn't very affectionate towards me his answer his he's stressed. Just not sure how to handle that. I did tell him I need him to be more affectionate to me and I need him to show me im important to him like he used to. He just said okay and I left it at that.
And a girl!! Yay congrats!!! I always have secretly been jealous of all the beautiful little girls clothing when I shop! Best wishes to you and your family in 2015. Thanks again for guiding me through this maze.
Jim - thanks for the perspective. I appreciate it. I can see where I tell H i don't like when he does things rather than approaching it another way and it can seem accusatory.
