First, if you are going to ask him to leave (and I get why), were you going to give him the letter? Or do it face to face?
As someone who was told the M was over via a note, face to face is very much more preferable, and I think YOU would feel better about it yourself, stbwx has expressed regret at the way she handled that.
Second, what mean you by "funny you say that..."
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
