Brainstorming here real quick... Just tossing ideas out there ...
How about rejection? That's one I've been working through. Unattractive? Unlovable? Not enough? Not able to trust ? That something is wrong with you? (That's another of mine)
i had to examine every fear to discover which were valid during my stand
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
Once you identify what your underlying deep fear(s) is/are that influence your behavior and decision-making, things become clearer. You then can move from a place of self-awareness, a place of power.
And these decisions can be made as action, instead of re-action.
Moving and growing forward, rather than protecting.
Just my 2.5 cents from my experience
Do something good for yourself tonight, have some fun, and let this stuff be, percolate... the sitch won't go anywhere anytime soon...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
funny you say that... I just composed a letter to my H asking him to leave. I can not be in a good space while he is living in this house seeking affairs.
First, if you are going to ask him to leave (and I get why), were you going to give him the letter? Or do it face to face?
As someone who was told the M was over via a note, face to face is very much more preferable, and I think YOU would feel better about it yourself, stbwx has expressed regret at the way she handled that.
Second, what mean you by "funny you say that..."
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
The letting it percolate part is what I refer to. I am resenting him like crazy and nothing good will come from that. I am boiling underneath and have been crying all day.
Hang in there T-mom! I see we are in similar spots. I come and go from calm to crazed.
I am sitting - hoping to have some fun tonight and tomorrow - I won't kill this on my anniversary. But I also want to keep some of my fire and not get all noodly.
You are in my thoughts
Me-45 W-44 S21, S18, D15 T-27, M-21 BD Jan 2014 PA revealed March 2014 In-house separation - April 2015 I filed - Aug 2015 She moved out Oct 2015
