Intro and Thoughts

[BFloat]

Hello. I've just sort of caught up with your situation. There is a lot of good advice you've been given. I know this is a tough ride but ride it you must.

I definitely agree with Sandi and more oftentimes than not.. Sex.. Intimacy.. It's really about the emotional connection. Even if your wife is initiating sex, at his point, your emotional connection is suffering which will probably leave her feeling empty and resenting you further that it happened. It's a tough pill to swallow since you didn't even initiate.

The detachment doesn't mean you shut off caring of having concern for your wife. You can still be a caring, empathetic person if that is who you are. But it does mean that her drama and mood swings do not dictate how you're feeling and what path you have to take.

All her talk about not being surprised when she comes back to you... She's keeping her hold on you. Says she wants you to find someone who will treat you better but then turns around and says she needs to find herself and with your help. All these mixed messages is enough to keep you hoping. Try not to get sucked into these mind games. Focus on yourself. Change you. It starts there.