Once you identify what your underlying deep fear(s) is/are that influence your behavior and decision-making, things become clearer. You then can move from a place of self-awareness, a place of power.
And these decisions can be made as action, instead of re-action.
Moving and growing forward, rather than protecting.
Just my 2.5 cents from my experience
Do something good for yourself tonight, have some fun, and let this stuff be, percolate... the sitch won't go anywhere anytime soon...
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm