You're getting great support from uR, stick with it.

I wanted to explain this a bit more:

So does this bring clarity to how quickly a spouse might fall into the affair trap?

I don't say that to give anyone a free pass on choices made. I do however think it opens us up to learn more about us. We start making excuses for why it would be OK to get into this R knowing full well it may not be the right time or the right person. At the same time we can't understand how the WA could ever do that.

But it feels. so. good, that scratching of the itch. Those brain chemicals work on everyone.

Good luck, you can do this.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss