I think the thing to remember is that they will notice actions more than words and ultimately a letter is just words. HP's thread had some really good advice on this - not saying you should do the same but his actions led to a reaction.
When I ask to my wife she just ignores me, regardless of whether it is in her interest. When I take action and tell her courteously what I've done I get an immediate reaction.
My wife for ages told me she was miserable but it was only when she took action I really listened.
Worth baring in mind
Last edited by jim0987; 12/31/1404:19 PM.
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
