Thanks again Wonka,
I think this is great. The trouble I am having finding the right words is this:
-she has never said that SHE wants a divorce or separation
-all of this is just my reaction to the affair
-I am having definite troubles detaching while we are living together. I know this is enviable to some people, but it is very hard for me. I still see her as someone I want to work everything out with and I still wait for that.

Also, my words often do not come out as planned in face to face conversations. Is a letter weak? I know what I am saying and have said in a letter.

I will work on my script.
Thanks again


Me-45 W-44
S21, S18, D15
T-27, M-21
BD Jan 2014
PA revealed March 2014
In-house separation - April 2015
I filed - Aug 2015
She moved out Oct 2015