Starsky is giving you sound advice, as he did in my sitch. You are allowing fear to be your guide. I tried going without an attorney for the same reason you are trying to avoid using one. At the very least, you can do a consultation for a very low cost, or no cost at all. Knowledge is power.
I find it interesting that you would want to hire a PI to figure out if there is an A, but don't want to spend the $$ on an attorney. In my sitch, it probably cost me more to not know all of my rights from the beginning.
Something that doesn't get talked about much on the boards, is the fog that the LBS finds themselves in the early stages. The fog of fear. Fear of pushing the WAS further away. The fear of sending the wrong signals. The fear of messing up. So on, and so forth. Fear will lead you directly to the land of regret.
Things to think about.
Me:45 ExW:48 M:04/97 3 Bombs & 2 ReCons 1st BD 11/10 D Finalized 4/20 D-16 S-14 Going in one more round when you don't think you can. That's what makes all the difference in life.~Rocky Balboa
