I would encourage you to make the following changes...
It's too long. It isn't decisive. If a letter like this doesn't sound confident and decisive, then it looks much
weaker.... Make it decisive (I have decided type comments) and stop the finger pointing at her.. Just tell her it isn't working for you and what you have decided...


Quote:
W,
As you probably know, I've been trying to think of solutions or at least ways to work on us. But I have been doing some thinking in the last few days AND this is what I have decided. I've decided that our current situation is not going to work for me. I know that as long as you are having an affair we cannot work on our marriage, you are not with me, and this does not work for me anymore. I have been fighting hard but maybe you are right - our marriage will not survive. You are seeking your emotional needs from another man, not your husband.
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You have wanted me to heal, but I don't believe that I can move forward with my life while seeing you disrespect me and our marriage. You are, and have always been free to leave and I think that would best for us. I cannot stop you from seeing him, but I do not have to [/color]live with this disrespect.

I know we need to do the what's best for the kids, but continuing to play happy family is not teaching the kids what a marriage really is.

If you really want to be with him, I can't say or do anything to stop that and you should be with him if you're willing to lie so much to me, if you can't be true to me that means he's more important to you than I am.

If you wanted to be with me, you knew that you had a lot of trust to rebuild and that's only through consistent action and I'm through with pressuring you to be my wife, and I now understand and hear you loud and clear. You really don't want to be with me and l don't want to be with someone who doesn't want to be with me. and that's what it looks like to me so let's stop playing games.

I've been settling for less for too long. I can't wait for you anymore, I've spent enough time waiting for you to do the right thing and I know that doesn't work because I would probably have to wait forever and still not get what I wanted. So you can do what you want and I'm going to do what I want. I'm going to start wanting something better for me.

I do think we should separate and I think it would be best if you moved out as soon as possible. as I do not see our situation improving.
U-turn

Justin Credible