21 Years - Walkaway Wife - Please Help!

[staytog]

Thanks! I have seen your standard post before. Other things I should say are she is 4 hours away. I can't get to her as I am in a halfway house until Feb and on home confinement til June. She works 80 hours a week and for the most part 7 days a week. She has agreed in the past to family therapy. Should I set it up for us? She may or may not come if I set up marriage counseling. We are talking regularly, and it is at least civil, but sometimes she yells. I feel there is an underlying anger because of issues we haven't spoken about yet. She feels my political views endangered the family I think. She says she wants to get along and she wants to be friends. She says the kids don't care whether we split up, which, according to my kids is NOT true. She said her parents were uncomfortable with being with me for Christmas, and I kind of doubt that unless she told them something horrible, and there really isn't anything horrible that happened in our relationship. My kids say she is acting like a 15 year old.

I am her second husband, two oldest are from her first 5 year (or so) marriage. When she left her first husband she moved to a resort area a couple hours away, got a job in a bar, met me. This time she left me, went to a very similar resort area , got a job in a bar, met guys there... She is repeating the same behavior. Also left us both for bottom line lack of quality time and communication..