Did your wife have postpartum depression? If so was she treated? She's gone through a lot of trauma in the last 4 years. Does she see an IC?
She hasn't ever seen anyone as far as I know. I think she has been depressed, but it is always masked by our kids and by work. She is a very private and passive person, she's not one to talk about her feelings all that much. We originally wanted a very large family, and after my son was born that possibility was taken away. We have barely discussed that.
In regards to our marriage, I asked multiple times to speak to someone, or go to a marriage boot camp, or a weekend seminar. I threw out a ton of ideas. Her response was no over and over. At one point she said "Why do you need someone in the room to hear me telling you what I am telling you now." However, a couple weeks ago it was extremely ironic.... In our state it is required to go to a Child Impact Seminar when you are filling for Divorce, which is taught by a Therapist. She called me immediately after saying how useful it was. I just laughed in my head. The woman who didn't want to talk to anyone thought a therapist was useful.
Me: 32 W: 29 T:8 M: 6 D4 S2 M - 8/2008 W is not happy - 1/2014 W wants D - 9/2014 W moved out - 11/2014 D filed - 1/23/2015 D'ed - 2/25/2015 Gave X the Letter - 11/10/2015
