This is the sad thing: while she is not wrong in that we had problems with affection, there was affection there. There was closeness. There were genuine warm feelings. I can see what is said about a spouse "re-writing" history in their minds, because she has done just that. She doesn't seem angry or hurt by it, just resigned. She only gives me a flat affect in response to the questions I posed last night. She acts as if it just doesn't matter. I have a hard time believing it doesn't affect her in any way.
I wonder if she is just deciding to do nothing at this point so she can take no blame. If she tries something and it fails then she'd have to take both that risk and failure if it didn't work. She instead she takes the "safe" route of doing nothing.
I don't get this...


M-44
W-44
Sons- 11&14
Married- 18
Together- 27
Separation mentioned- 9-29-14
Still together, but not "together"
"if you feel rotten and forgotten,
remember there'll be better days."