I think I'm done

[BFloat]

Deep breath... There were many moments I felt everything spinning out of control. I wanted to be heard.. Thinking that if he only understood how I truly felt and what he was losing, that everything would change. Things just got worse. I found out things that shattered my heart and I was spiralling downward.

But I had 2 young kids that needed me to get it together. So to save my sanity.. I had to go dark. I couldn't change anything.. Couldn't DB.. Care for kids.. Focus on some tough issues... I'm not saying I did it perfectly and then I was fine. It was going dark.. Figuring some stuff out.. Sliding back.. Going dark again.. DB.. GAL... It was some tough work.

Whatever the relationship between your H and OW is completely out of your control. If you choose to set boundaries there you will have to really think about what those boundaries mean and are you ready to enforce it. I think setting boundaries on how he speaks to you is definitely within your right. You do not need to feel demeaned, belittled, or any of that sort of behaviour. Remove yourself from the conversation when that starts. Remember, if that is the way you want him to treat you, then you will have to give him the same courtesies.

His "good friend"... Ah the 'we're just good friends"... Try not to entertain thoughts of what their relationship is like because in the end, there is really nothing.. Nothing.. You can do about it. Go out.. GAL.. Get yourself in a good space.. It will make it much much easier to DB.