Jim0987 #8 - A bit clearer on the rebuild

[Wonka]

Jim,

Dude....you've got to remove those blinders for YOUR own sake.

*Filing serves me little purpose at this stage except for 'statement' value

No. It serves a HUGE purpose. Protecting yourself from financial ruin and removing yourself from a person with toxic behaviors.

* my wife is likely being underhanded with a number of aspects but I cannot say exactly what. I do know she is clever and a very skilled manipulator but I know where my boundaries are

You've done a very poor job of enforcing your boundaries because you've backed down EVERY single time W spews and issues threats all sundry. And you basically called me 'daft' for calling her shifty.

To go further at this stage is to escalate in a way I do not wish to or to degenerate relations further (no good for the kids). Her words don't hurt me, how I react to them is what hurts me and so I'm trying to do better to control my reactions and act like im OK regardless.

I think it's time to move past worrying about how W views you. Now is not the time to worry if W likes you or breaks her fingernail. Bury the Mr. Nice Guy six feet under. Put on your business hat and FIGHT for what you're entitled to....especially as a father who deserves unfettered access to his OWN children. Are your kids worth fighting for? Give it all you've got in the most important battle of your life.

You are in the battle of the Roses: York vs. Lancaster.