Yes, a few times he wanted to WA and I have ½ wanted to WA a couple of times, but I do love him and he does love me. And honestly, I do not want to get a divorce and start over, we have a child and lost a child (plus 2 miscarriages) I do not quit as I think I can save this and give up financially what I have built as I have brought all the $$ to the marriage. I know, I know, I know how this sounds.
We did see a DB counselor for many session and did get on the right track. The advice was for us to be more loving to each other, affirm each other. DH to have more sex with me.
He does suffer from depression but if VERY good at hiding it, and basically every emotion. Just last night we were saying how we love each other. He is all over the place.
Has anyone heard of the other rules of DB: if you have a partner/spouse that is sensitive or needy you DO pursue. That is the position I am in--I have to pursue even though I am also (equally) hurt. Otherwise it all falls apart.
And, NO I cannot enlist anyone to help, this will drive H further away. So I am on my own, again to repair this OR I can opt out as it has been very rocky from the start and now I know my H really, really never want to be married.
