I was versed in DB but have not needed it in many years.

Here is some info:
A few months back:
After months of him not saying much, and us having no sex (and me asking for it all the time) and me asking him for months what the problem is:
He says: "I have nothing, I only can control when I have to go to the bathroom and when we have sex."

So I did a 180 and started involving him more in decisions, etc. And it got better, according to him. We even had great sex. That was in October.


However, we have hit a real, real low today.
The summary is my husband and I had a small argument this morning that we agreed to talk more about tonight. Once we started talking, it turned into a BLOW OUT. The argument was all over the place and it raised to the point I hit him (I have never done that), called him names and then curled up in a ball and cried. Once I gathered myself, I sat down to talk to him and told him that I was very upset and that this was not the way I wanted this talk to go...that I had intended to start the conversation with I love you and I want to work at what ever the issue(s) are.

He goes on to tell me that he never wanted to be married, have a child, that he caved on everything, everything he has given, done for me he has not wanted: all was to make me happy. And to top it off that I do not care about him, think about him or even know how I make him feel or how I speak to him .

He went on to say "I have nothing am an idiot and a waste."

Then he said he was leaving and I told him he could not leave after dumping this on me. He just went off saying "f**c you, I can go where ever I want."

I just told him I love him and want to be married.

Then he left the house, crying.

This is such a bad time for us to be going thru this: I do not have a job right now and we have a 1 year old who is not sleeping, and a house under major repair: so the stress is high. It has been a rough couple of years as we also lost a child.

But honestly, I am not sure I want to stay married to him as this is a repeat cycle...but I do love him.

I am LOST and need some help from you all out there. HELP

-sleep deprived, sex deprived and spinning out of control