She's not yet living with the OM, that I am aware of, she stays with her folks when not taking her turn at home with our daughter. The question, regardless of geography, is still a very good one because (the answer) is I am not sure if I want her back. Worse still, I move closer to that feeling, of not wanting her back with every day that passes. It has only been six weeks. One only wonders where I will be at the three or four month mark and so on...
All I know is that if we get divorced it will be HER decision, just like the other decisions she's made. She will need to live with that one too. I have retained and visited w/ family attorney a few times and there is ZERO benefit to me initiating the 'big D'. We have a very 50/50 marriage so there is nothing to loose, other than the ability to say later, many years later, that I was not the one that threw in the towel.
