I'm genuinely grateful for the input but I think I'm still just not getting something here. Sorry
*I know my wife is waywad (ongoing sexually active relationship with OM1) * my wife is also very clear there is no way back for us. *I have protected all my rights to the kids as far as can without significant legal escalation *In disagreements regarding the kids my wife continues to be unreasonable but is likely to significantly escalate and has threatened such (documented with my solicitor) *The financial settlement is still to be resolved but in truth she is trying to play me and it won't happen. *Filing serves me little purpose at this stage except for 'statement' value * my wife is likely being underhanded with a number of aspects but I cannot say exactly what. I do know she is clever and a very skilled manipulator but I know where my boundaries are
To go further at this stage is to escalate in a way I do not wish to or to degenerate relations further (no good for the kids). Her words don't hurt me, how I react to them is what hurts me and so I'm trying to do better to control my reactions and act like im OK regardless.
Or am I still missing something?
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
