Married young, W had affair w/ coworker Pt.2

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Hey UpperCut,
Finally read through your story. It's a tough one, because it's very hurtful if a person we love is moving to the "dark side". Part of growing up I guess and you got to have so much endurance, I can't even imagine.
I hope your new year will bring more happiness to you and I'll pray for your wife. And since recently I didn't pray in 20 years.

Regarding the drug use possibility:
It sounds like she's going through the things a teenager/young adult will go through.
I wouldn't over rate the pot use, it's for sure better than drinking. The adderall might have caused weight loss because you lose a lot of appetite. The pot will cause munchies on the other hand, and red eyes plus munchies is a clear sign she smoked weed but then you should be able to smell it at some point, or she's very smart covering it up.. Adderall is very bad for you, it's basically speed.
It's hard to give advice, seems like you are in a situation of a parent rather than a husband. If she is losing more weight be alert. Weight loss is a sign of using too much Adderall plus her mental issues and the stress too.
Just stay alert and if things get weirder seek some advice from an expert how to deal with this. Drugs can't be the solution, ever.
Speaking from experience, my own when I tried to figure out who I am