Jim0987 #8 - A bit clearer on the rebuild

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Jim

You are not being naive just wilfully blind. If you don't take the blindfolds off then no one can do it for you. And it is truly in your interests to do so, to accept that W is way out of control and actually appears to have no real direction at all.

However I am going to venture an opinion on the filing issue. This is where the UK and the U.S. divide on legal grounds. The UK system is not in principle adversarial, but it is reactive. If you look at it you can cross petition at nisi if W goes fault on you. Please review government web site link if you do not believe me. The days of fault filing are gone, one party can allege fault and the other can deny or project back. Effectively creating stalemate. If I were game playing (and remember I am a UK tax consultant) then I would sit it out. As far as I can see you are buying out W, the power is with you. W needs speed, you can afford to wait. This is often the case when buying a business or house; one party has the upper hand because they know the other needs speed. Stalemate is in your interest once the financial settlement is agreed. Your pride is irrelevant in this and not a factor. Plus a threat of cross filing will make W pull right back, you don't need to lift a finger your L can do it. The key to keeping L costs low is to spoon feed the L with all the key financial and legal stuff. And to opt for mediation.

This is where your L is so important to you. Wonka is spot on with the principle here. If you can obtain evidence of OM1 and OM2 and anything else such as OM(latest) to be included. You know their names, so addresses not hard to get. Facebook evidence can work too, diaries, you have dates timelines from here if you can not remember. You are a smart lad and computer literate. Don't file if it isn't in your interests to do so which is my belief here. But in everything your choice. I have my financial settlement agreed so H wont get his settlement until the house is sold. Your position is stronger as you are the buyer.

It's called facing the music my friend, popping the bubble, reality check in.

In all things the kids come first and the courts always view the more stable parent as the better choice. These days that isn't automatically the mother. W is wayward it is in your interest to accept this. But no one here on this board can force you to open your eyes.

Jim you only protect yourself with your eyes wide open and that gives you the best DB opportunities.
I mean this very kindly but my 2x4 is now a 12x8
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