Hey Wonka! Thanks for reading my thread and thank you for the words of encouragement!

Yes, I believe I have been impatient. I think this is due to my feelings of anger and rejection. My mantra throughout has been "Forever is a long time." in hopes that W will see my actions and that I am trying to become a person, one that she wants to be with. I have accepted my responsibility for the actions that caused W to leave and have taken steps to improve. However, I am still very angry that she would leave in the first place. I sometimes think that W and I have different values in life (I would have never given up on my family, and she didn't even try counseling). I feel she is acting very selfishly and I feel like I have been deceived.

Like you said, there are no guarantees. She may never come back. I have accepted that I am staring down the barrel of the divorce gun. I have accepted that.

I believe you when you say that my actions do have an effect on W. What advice would you give me concerning my new friend in a similar situation?

Last edited by lnlyshp; 12/30/14 08:54 PM.
Me 23, Her 21
1S 2
M <1yr, T 7
WAW: She moved out 11/15/2014
She started D process 1/29/15