I have followed your sitch for some time ... and yeah I think you are at a point where you have done so many DB type actions, some worked .. some didn't. All you can do is get to a point where you must take care of you first, you might feel like at the moment you are just going through the motions and by not rocking the boat maybe she will figure stuff out. Only you know when .... but sometimes firing a shot over the bow is required .... get em thinking ... let go of fear, you will be fine regardless ... once you get to that point the peace that one feels is amazing.
