1st post, Green Jealousy

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Starsky's advice right there is the best out there, Isbar.

I know you're tired and feeling beat up. Listen, sweetie: We've alllll been there. That's why we're here. We've lost weight due to not being able to eat. We've lost hours - whole nights, even - of sleep. Some of us have overindulged in self-medicating just to make it through a day during those first few days, weeks and months. But Starsky, Theoden, Wonka and I have all made it through that - with time and a lot of personal effort. Our outcomes aren't all the same, but we are ALL better people for the work we put in (and, at least in my case, CONTINUE to put in).

Have patience with yourself right now, okay? And be gentle with yourself. You're going through a VERY traumatic experience. It's the pits. But remember this is a marathon and not a sprint. Your M didn't get into the shape it's in overnight. Neither you nor your M will be "fixed" overnight, either.

The "bootstraps" are there, hon. You just have to force yourself to get up and find them. The very first step is finding your self-respect and taking back some of your power. Starsky's advice up there will help you begin to do just that.

And I'll repeat what Starsky said because it's important: Do not be specific about what you know. Leave H guessing. Let him squirm a little.