So does this bring clarity to how quickly a spouse might fall into the affair trap?

Or is this tit for tat?

Or wanting to make up for something missing in you.

You listed many reasons not to get involved with someone at this time. Heed them.

Me 57/H 58
M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13

Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do.
I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering.
Caroline Myss