Jim,

Originally Posted By: jim0987
The question Im stuck on is what do I gain by filing?


Protecting your financial assets. It's as simple as that. Your W is truly out of control and unreasonable through her shifty actions.

Originally Posted By: jim0987
There is a big ego thing of the paperwork saying it's her affair that caused it (had really good advice from my solicitor on thus) but it makes no real difference otherwise.


It's self-righteous that's driving these thoughts. Those actions are designed to shame and humiliate the WAS. There's absolutely nothing to be gained from this type of action. It will only serve to reinforce the negative outlook in their heads about you. You do not want to feed into that mindset.

Originally Posted By: jim0987
I've said clearly to all concerned that I require a 'clean break' financial settlement before paying anything - wife just doesn't want to hear this


Good for you!

Originally Posted By: jim0987
My solicitors have precautionarily drawn up some injunction paperwork if she does try to take the kids.


Excellent move!