Ambivalent, I hope that you were able to enjoy Christmas this year. So much has happened in your world, especially the last few months.
As for your mother, she's not going to adhere to boundaries at this time in her life. She feels the need to control everything around her. I'm very sorry that things aren't better between her and her children. She's got to be a very lonely woman.
As for your h, I'm not surprised at the stuff he's pulling out of the hat. He's going to do whatever it takes to ensure he doesn't have to pay you anything more than he has to. The games they have been playing, i.e., phone calls and not having the agreement signed are just disgusting and to think lawyers play these games and can spot a MLCer a mile away. I do think he's correct in saying a judge will not consider commissions or a bonus as part of his earnings, because they are too unpredictable and are not "steady" income. How can he get his fees and costs for the Monday hearing? That's crazy since he's the one that created all of this mess. I can't see them allowing him reimbursement for that. Well, I guess it doesn't hurt to ask.
Yes, they do turn ugly once the divorce proceedings begin and when there is money involved. I think I warned you of this when you first came to the forum. They don't remain nice for very long, especially when their wallets are being pinched for things the spouse requires.
I do hope t hat 2015 will be a better year for you, but it's going to take some time to get over the hump of divorce. March isn't too far away and hopefully the next hearing will provide you w/some monetary relief as well as knowing when things will finally be settled.
Wishing you a Happy New Year and may it be a better one for you.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
