Hey bright! I guess there has been a lot going on lately, huh? Some of the things you have posted makes me feel a twinge in my heart bc they hit so close to home.
I've got to say, I think you are handeling it all incredibly well. You carry yourself with grace and dignity. I think that is great. It is not an easy thing to do, especially when it is something that really strikes our emotions.
A lot of what you describe is how things were with me. I also think it's ok to get angry, like you did when you saw the card. As long as you don't stay in that state of mind, it is a natural emotion to some of the frustrations you have. I think I felt a little better after the "anger stage" and job has some great advice for working past that. Perspective. That was always important to me. Still is! I try to keep perspective of the sitch as it is. And it helps me to remember that I can only control myself. But I do think the world would be much better off if I had more control of others (ha! Joking).
Really though, bright, I think you are doing a great job. I am so happy you had the house all decked out and you did it for you. That's great. I'm happy for your gal. It's not always easy to take that step to do it, but it does pay off, right? I proud of how you handled yourself w h. you got this, bright. I know you will find true happiness again. You deserve it!
Keep doing what you are doing. Oh btw... I think our states have the same laws re seperation and d. If you are where I think you are, we mirrored your law. We had to file our seperation agreement under the second part you listed. And it says, "in consequence of and irretrievable breakdown in the marital relationship and unhappy and irreconcilable differences," which is lame. I found "irretrievable" a joke since NOTHING was done to try to "fix" it. You know, like maybe one conversation????
Ah, well.... Keep doing what you're doing, bright. Your time will come, my dear.
