Boundaries clearly stated by me and thoroughly ignored by W. She has stuck to electronic NC but is insistent on getting the chance to see OM when he comes back into town in late January. Her claim (eyes rolling) is that she only wants to talk to him to get more of her beloved "clarity". I'm at a loss as to how understanding him more is even relevant if she's committed to our marriage. We're at an impasse there.
My DB coach has recommended letting go and giving her the freedom to make her own choices (no smothering), but using the time we have to rebuild our relationship to the point that OM does not have the same effect. (oversimplified, but that's the gist) I can't chain her to the radiator, and she's going to do what she's going to do regardless of what boundaries I set. I'm not sure what my options for enforcing those boundaries are besides separating if she continues down this path.
I wondered when someone was going to pick up on 'WPS'. Dawn and I have used that in the past in our posts to each other. The 'WPS' is internet shorthand for "Wooo Pig Sooie!", a common greeting among fans of the University of Arkansas Razorbacks. My beloved alma mater played the University of Texas in American football last night and beat them like the proverbial rug.
Ex Rzrback Me 43 Her 44 D11, D15 T21, M19 BD 9/9/2014 Piecing
Sometimes if you want to see a change for the better, you have to take things into your own hands - Clint Eastwood
