Jim0987 #8 - A bit clearer on the rebuild

[jim0987]

Thanks all.

The question Im stuck on is what do I gain by filing?

There is a big ego thing of the paperwork saying it's her affair that caused it (had really good advice from my solicitor on thus) but it makes no real difference otherwise.

I've said clearly to all concerned that I require a 'clean break' financial settlement before paying anything - wife just doesn't want to hear this

My solicitors have precautionarily drawn up some injunction paperwork if she does try to take the kids.

So in some ways my thinking is why push it - me not reacting I think is annoying her. (Mind reading)


Vanilla thank you for the reminder about guilt. I was almost eloquent when I wrote that. All of her criticism my behaviour is 100% true and more she doesn't know - though she has my intent and feelings all wrong. I don't say thus out of guilt or to absolve her but its something I need to accept (truly accept) so that I can understand and change.