a young marriage in trouble

[lnlyshp]

Hey, Vanilla. Thank you for the advice, as always. To answer your question: Yes, I am doing great.

To update on sich: Not much has changed. But I felt that our recent interactions have been very positive. She texted to ask about when I would pick up S the other day and was very kind to me. She even made a couple of jokes and told me about some words she thought she'd heard him say, and sent me a funny picture she'd taken of him. I told her that it was great and then cut off the conversation. When I went to pick him up, she invited me in and I got his shoes and coat on. We discussed the schedule for the week and it was very easy and agreeable. Took maybe 30 seconds to work out the details and then I gave her a high five. I got in the driver's seat of car as she was strapping in S, and told her my new favorite joke. It's a corny dad joke and she said "OH MY GOD." and told S she was sorry that she "had to leave him with this cheeseball (me)." I got a kick out of her reaction. I have been thinking about her less and less, which scares me. At the same time, I think its good because sometimes I think I can feel my heart healing.

One thing I feel I should update the forum on: I met someone. When out with some friends at a restaurant, I ran into a girl from high school that was working. I asked how things were going with her S (he is 2, about the same age as mine). I asked if she was still with the father and she said no. Told her we should get the boys together for a playdate as I think my son would love to have a friend his age. Got to texting her and it turns out that she is also a LBS, and that her SO left her 5 days before W left me. It is so nice to have someone to talk to about everything that understands (besides the wonderful folks on here of course!) She is also in counseling. It is really crazy how much we have in common. She invited me to a small party at her home this week and I adjusted the schedule with W specifically so I could go. Tonight, she also asked me out on a date and I told her I would love to go.

I am taking things very slowly with this because I know we are both in difficult positions. She knows about my feelings for W/sich and she has told me that she is still in love with her SO. So immediately, I know the dangers of the situation. If nothing comes of it and she returns to SO, then I truly would be happy for her. Since I know first hand what it feels like to be in that kind of situation in a relationship, I would completely understand. I feel we have both been very honest with each other. At the same time, I would be lying if I said I didn't like her. I think it is good for me to have someone that understands the pain I'm going through, if nothing more as a friend. And, to be honest, I am really looking forward to taking her out because I haven't been on a date in so long and she is such a sweet girl.

Not getting any hopes up, but sailing towards the light.
- lonelyship