Thanks, uR. I love that you reminded me to use my time wisely. I used to think that meant to use the time wisely in order to save my M. Now I see it as using time wisely to transform myself into who I really am, who I really want to be. And I could see how rushing into an R right now would not only be unfair to myself and the R partner, it would jeopardize a potential future with them, and it might not let me finish my grieving process naturally.

I get the travolta reference, but what do you mean by Fred? Freddy Mercury? Because I love me some Freddy Mercury lol. whatever you come up with, I'm flattered


Me 38, WAW 30
D11 (former marriage)
S2
T 8 years
M 3 years
BD 8/20/23
S 8/20/23