afraid I have waited too long #5

[nit84]

Wonka, Thanks for telling me to look at 25's post to Mahhhty.

It gave me a lot to think to think about. I don't want to be vindictive with my W. I know it is not my battle but I feel sorry for my W and Honestly for the OMW.

First, my W is being a "home wrecker" OMW words not mine. I believe my W is being used... again not my problem but if this were happening to a friend I would feel the same way. Second, The OWM wants her sitch to turn around for her kids who are really upset "MOM and Dad are having problems."

My L says it may help a little when it comes to division of assets if an A is proven.

If my W would just be fair about a settlement we could go our separate ways. I am trying to protect myself. I don't want to force my W back to me. I want her to truly miss me and then maybe want to work on the M. early in the S she said in her mind we are S so anything she does is not my business. This is true but I can't just roll over and allow my W to expect a large settlement because I make more than her. There is a lot of resentment in her settlement proposal. The reason I was thinking about saying anything about the OW is to see if she admits to the A and allow for renewed settlement negotiations. I don't want my M to end but if is going to I want to be as protected financially as possible. Maybe there is a better of handling this but I am unsure of what it is.

I am sure W L has advised her against any admission of an A if he knows anything about it.

I understand this is all the W choosing but I sure don't want her to jeopardize my Financial future because she wants her freedom from our M. I have tried to be fair I don't want her to suffer either but her current settlement demands are outrageous and full of venom.


I have decided against talking to my W or bringing up the A at the hearing. I will hope nature takes its course on this A.

Thanks again for the feedback. This is the kind of thinking I want to do.