Jim0987 #8 - A bit clearer on the rebuild

[jim0987]

I do still feel guilt about the things i did wrong (and they were really wrong) but very much now im in the mindset that these are what i need to change.

on my last thread i wrote a very long post about what the core issues are for me and I dont think my W's comments changed any of this.

the biggest changes in my perception relate to more memories of times when she was clear and i ignored, that our relationship wasnt fun and that i debated things unnecessarily

additional the extent to which my wife will lie also became more obvious.

I did during the conversation directly push back on some of what she said as well as how the way she said it made me feel.