there isnt a legal seperation as such as we are still in the same house although you could (and she will) argue the 2 year clock started ticking when she retained a solicitor.
I expect her to file citing my unreasonable behaviour and my solicitor has said i can not agree but also not contest and that this ultimately doesnt make any difference elsewhere in proceedings
although financial consent orders and custody agreements need to be resolved before the decree absolute they are not part of the divorce process. I drafted an agreement several months ago covering this stuff (which she sought to change as of 22nd december).
from my perspective I have said to W and my solicitor that i cannot give her any money for the equity in the house unless there is an agreement that that represents the totality of my financial commitment and waves any future claims. If this can only be acheived through the divorce process so be it as i will not expose myself financial any more than i already am.
my W sees this as me 'trying to pull the wool out from under her' hence her threat to move out on the 20th and take the kids to hampshire (anytime during this process she feels i'm standing ground she threatens solicitors actions and taking the kids from me)
As for the divorce itself it seems like the only issue in me accepting the divorce is my fault is an ego thing, where as pushing it the other way risks all kinds of spew and destructive behaviour. My ego can take it and so i wasnt planning on filing
it might be we have to go through the final divorce as the only way to conclude the financial aspects which really are the only bits that matter (my rights to the kids are protected unless she starts calling the police and making stuff up)
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress
