Jim0987 #8 - A bit clearer on the rebuild

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answers from Vanilla

1. No, even if every single word of criticism were true. W is still not accepting any responsibility for herself. At all, none. You are DBing just fine, making changes for Jim. Still not enough STFU and too much per suit. Some of this putting her R with her children as your responsibility is just unpleasant. These statements are contradicting each other and much of it is clearly lies.

Much more concise than I could muster vanilla :-)

Just to reenforce that my w has told me all the faults I had but when after counselling I simplysat down with her one morning waiting to pick up s and said all I'd needed was her to hold my hand from time to time and not always want to push me away she teared up. She's still to admit anything was her responsibility. I think a lot is in the script and, as I've said before, when we deviate its when we get radio silence or we get the barrage of what we "should" have done or the millions of reasons its our fault but never why they didn't address it at the time.