Thanks for the comments and inout. I am as always very grateful.
A few things crop up from reading your thoughts.
- I didn't really take it as spew. I took it as how she feels and was positive that for once she actually was willing to explain. - it was all clearly laid on me, though she again made vague references to things she needs to learn from this. The only specific was not to marry someone if they didn't ask (she asked me) - at points she was lying, she knows she was lying, I know she is lying, i font know if she knows I know. I kind of backed her into an uncomfortable corner (particularly about the dating). - she talked positively about herself but also how miserable she is stuck in her bedroom, that she hates coming back to this house where I am.
Her moving will help me detach and I certainly deserve better than the relationship I've had these last couple of years. I'm not sure why I would want to reconcile with someone who treats me as she has but I do and that's how I feel about it.
Couple of questions 1) Just out of curiousity, let's assume everything she has said is true, exactly as she describes it. Does that make any difference to what I should be doing or thinking about things. (I recognise everything she has said even if I can give a bunch if yes, buts...)
2) wonka, you say to file. Can I ask why you think this?
Thanks
Both mid 30s, 2 young kids BD 7sep14 XW moved on long ago, now living with OM1 D paperwork in progress