afraid I have waited too long #5

[nit84]

I am on MWD email list also and got her Email this morning.

As I looked at the list of things for the new year, I am happy because I have already been doing some of those things.

I haven't gotten a response from W on the Christmas Wishes I emailed to her. I wasn't expecting anything big but a "same to you" would have been nice.

This happened on Christmas eve as I was going to help my friend at her Pet Grooming Salon.

I stopped at my normal morning coffee place but it was about 3 hrs later than usual since I was off. I recognized the car in the lot. It was the OM. I had never seen him up close but when I looked up he was sitting in the booth directly in front of my car. I don't know if he has seen pictures of me but when I entered the shop. He and the man he was sitting with didn't turn to look at me and kept stuffing their faces.

I was cheery and when I went in the counter attendant who I know said good morning to me and when she said my name OM turned to look and then quickly turned away. I got my Coffee and left but sat in my car for a couple extra seconds for the hell of it. I then left. Not sue if this had anything to do with the no response to my email or maybe it was the fact that my W saw me in the same parking lot as her a couple days before this. I was leaving as she was coming.


Then there is this. I did my normal Christmas breakfast at my Sister's house then I went home and relaxed the entire day. It was nice and I didn't really mind being alone. I had the opportunity to go to a dinner at my Aunt's house but I wasn't invited by her it was my Mom that asked if I wanted to go. I am sure it would have been no problem but still liked the relaxing Christmas. When I was with my W On Christmas we always had 5 places to go and it was hectic. I told my W I couldn't wait till we had kids so people had to come see us instead of the other way around.

In the midst of my relaxing I received intel from 2 different people. The 1st person told me That OM was at the place his kids were On Christmas eve till about 2 AM. Then he was back at 8 AM and was there all day. Not surprising because his kids were there.

The 2nd person told me that my W was at her Grandmother's, where she is staying, All night Christmas Eve and was also there Christmas Morning and Christmas Night. I am sure in the afternoon she was at her Mom's house which was where we always were Christmas afternoon.

The only reason I even bring this up is this. I chose to be by myself on Christmas and was perfectly fine with it. It was my choice.

This could be mind reading but somehow I don't think my W was happy with the way her holiday went. I mean the OM who supposedly cares for her spent most if not all his Holiday with his family as he should.

This must have been very tough on my W. This was her choice though to get involved in an A. Not my Problem that OM is still intimate with the mother of his children and most likely is lying to my W about it. Maybe she doesn't mind at all and it is just a physical thing they have. I don't want to see her being used but again this isn't my problem.

Trying now to focus on Spousal support modification hearing next week. Later in the week, I will run some stuff past the board in case there are discussions. I would like to be prepared.


One last thing. Should I send the New Year wishes as I planned?

Considering she didn't respond to the Christmas email, would I look foolish or would I be taking the high road as a confident happy Man that I am becoming again by sending the wishes?