If H stays, I am afraid I will let my (currently) overpowering emotions out, with resentment and hatred...it is truly a thin line between love and hate. we will wind up really disliking each other, and that is not where we currently are.
Sure about that? Sounds different to me from what you've posted:
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We get along fine, because he is in cake-land, and I am... faking a lot.
I am seething below the surface with my husband, but we are getting along ok, because I am being fake most of the time... which is so unlike me. I am building up some serious resentment, and I feel embarrassed that people know my husband is looking elsewhere.
How would I explain that without him thinking that I am mad at him?
What is the deeper fear underneath that ^^^ surface fear?
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If he leaves I am afraid that that will be it for us...all.
Why does that scare you? There is a core fear generating this fear, and the surface fears...
Please take you time in mulling these over... no rush, no rush to decide to ask him to leave either, or decide to let him stay...
You need to get good with YOU first...
Just my 2.5 cents...
Last edited by TSquared2; 12/29/1409:19 PM.
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