Card29 VIII

[25yearsmlc]

Little, if it worked for you, well, that's fine. Not sure that "not" posting would have hurt you an iota, either.

For me, it's seems like by posting it, I'd make a very private, sometimes evolving matter, much more public than needed.

In some cases, maybe it even cements things.

And for sure it has often looked like an advertisement that say "Hey, I'm NOW available!!"

For instance, An old boyfriend of mine posted on FB and then called me to tell me his wife and he were getting a divorce and he "wanted [me] to know from [him] before I heard it elsewhere..." (???)

That's sort of hilarious. I mean, I have NOT kept in touch with him for 25+ years...
Nor would ANY of my friends pick up the phone to say "guess who is now ready to date??" We had fallen out of touch long ago. To me, his comments were needy and sad and very obvious. (For the record, I referred him HERE to DB land and I know he at least read the first chapter).


IF you, Card, feel the "need" to post on FB, what is it you'd say, and why? I mean, really ask yourself why.

And what's wrong with just removing the marital status altogether?
Is it my imagination or do you feel the need to be IN a relationship soon, with anyone?

I cannot help but feel a sense of urgency in you that I don't think is very reflective or helpful, in the long run. Though I concede that in the short run, it sure can feel good.

Good luck!