-What are you afraid of, in either scenario? Are they the same fear(s), or do the fears vary with the options?
-How might YOU feel about his possible financial hardship? Would you be at peace with yourself? Will you be able to say "no" and let him live the consequences of his choices?
-Is the current arrangement working for YOU? How long might you be able to wait him out? Would waiting til spring, with a forewarning in January, when he could have more work, give you peace, and him time to consider his options?
- (stealing these from another poster ) What is Love to you?
-What is Obligation?
-What is the difference?
-Which do you feel, in reality, right now, for your spouse?
Imo, and I had an SAHM in-house mlc'er for 2.5 years before she moved out after finding a job, with no affection, touch, etc., think these things through, find what YOU think you are able to do (knowing that you are capable of much more than you think you are), use the theater of your mind to play the different scenarios out, see where they might end up...
Imo, standing at first is about learning what you are made of, then it is about learning about you.
Have you started the hard parts of learning about you?
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
) What is Love to you?
