Jim - Again, I agree with you here Something else that has crossed my mind though, and something to think about T-mom - the possibility that a detached, friendly, room mate, that has nearly no contact, goes out on his own, finds his own activities, could be exactly what they want. It leaves them feeling less guilty about everything, in fact maybe it even justifies an A even more.
To me this complicates and perpetuates this limbo. I know we are doing this for ourselves, but do you ever think that instead of showing them a person that they'd be a fool to leave, that you are proving that this is all perfect?
Just wondering.
I agree with this somewhat....my stbxw reacted just like that when I went about my business and just worked to improve myself and be happy. She just took it as a sign that I was ok with being room mates while she went on with her horse hobby and addiction. She was actually surprised when after a year I finally said. This wasn't Working.
me: 47, W:49 M 16.5 years T 17 years Three kids - D17,D14, S13 Heart 2 heart about M 11/8/13 Bomb drop 11/29/13 W moved out 12/5/13 I Retained L 2/20/14 D filed 3/17/14
