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Originally Posted By: Little
Thanks so much, peeps. I can't tell you how much I value everyone's support here. I don't think I'd be where I am today with out all of you cheering me on. And I very much enjoy cheering everyone else on, too.

I was thinking this weekend how proud of myself I am that I can survive without any help. As old as I am, sometimes I still feel like a teenager. I forget that I am an adult, and that all of my successes or failures are a direct result of what I do or don't do.

SO: I found a beautiful apartment and I will survive (dare I hope -- even THRIVE!!) here. On my own. Supporting myself.

I don't need BF to be happy and fulfilled. I don't need to rush into another R, as a means of running away from myself or my issues. Instead, I'm working on me, being self-aware of my strengths and weaknesses and choosing to better me FOR me.

I am on a path to healing, improvement, and rebirth.


Also, I'm tickled pink that this morning I had two cats watching me take my morning tinkle. I haven't lived alone and tinkled with the door open since 2003. Hehehe.


^^^^ smile smile smile All good little and I'm sure you'll thrive


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Ah so I'm not the only one with a toilet obsessed cat. Enter bathroom close door to (if s is here) but don't lock. Then as with something from a horror movie round the door comes a paw........

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M:44, W:46, S:10
M 13 years, T 15
BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
My new place: 21/11/2014
W/S back to flat 22/11/2014
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YES! My cats are my kids! One is a very young and spry 15 years old and the other is three months shy of his 1 year birthday!

Part of my excitement in this move was because I realized my bedroom doesn't have any windows (so I can sleep until noon on Saturdays with no sunlight to wake me up!!!) but then I realized my cats are barnacles with co-dependency issues and sleeping with the door shut probably won't be allowed. ROFL!

This morning I had the bathroom door closed but not latched (FIRST MISTAKE) and ended up with one on my toes meowing at me, and the other sitting in the door way to see how the party was going.

The kitten has been much more skittish about the changes than I figured he would be -- he's been darting under the bed to hide at any stray noise, and sleeping huddled under the bed covers -- but I anticipate he'll adjust well.

The elderly one is fine and dandy as long as I'm around; she's brave and bold. smile


ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
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My moggie (and she is a mog) is 15 not bad for a kitten who nearly died at 3 weeks when she was rejected by her mum. Shes her own cat, I think she does miss w's cat as they have shared their homes for 15 years, she was a little..odd...when I first moved but is settling now. She's not really a clingly mog if its cold she'll seek the duvet but mostly she seeks possession of the best part of the sofa!

She starts chasing me at 7 for breakfast and carries on being less than 2 feet from me at all times until food is available, I moved her from cat food to sliced chicken, ham and rice with some biscuits since the move as her stomach seems to have issues with pet food, she likes it OK but it doesn't like her!


M:44, W:46, S:10
M 13 years, T 15
BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
My new place: 21/11/2014
W/S back to flat 22/11/2014
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Ego's in high drive today.

Ego chimes in: "What if BF decides OW is his perfect match and they live happily ever after, even after destroying an innocent party (IE: YOU)...who loved him deeply enough to want to try to fix the R issues instead of throwing it away?"

Yes, thank you, Ego. If he does that, then obviously I deserve better than someone that won't see my worth. If he doesn't miss me, and he doesn't want to be with me, then let's let it ride and not fret about it, shall we?

I don't know what's in store for the future but I deserve as much being put into me as I put into someone else. That's for damn sure.


ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
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Great PMA and absolutely right smile


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Maybe that ego needs a dose of STFU?!?!?!?! LOL In all seriousness, you DO deserve someone who sees your worth and appreciates the person you are. You are smart, sassy and bold and you need someone who loves and adores those things about you. Your future is bright! smile


Me 52, H53
Bomb drop 9/29/2014
Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014
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Oh and sense of humour whilst we mention good qualities.

I am baffled how did you move all that stuff in the end?

Vanilla


Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose.
V 64, WAW


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Originally Posted By: Vanilla

I am baffled how did you move all that stuff in the end?

Vanilla


I ended up biting the bullet and paying for a small Uhaul. I've just been living VERY frugally to make up for it, until the next paycheck rolls around.

My mother and I fit everything I own in it, and moved in one day. It was actually a pretty relaxed day, considering. All the tension disappeared between us and we got the job done quickly and efficiently. Our normal banter and laughs were restored. smile

Happy New Year, everyone. Here's hoping the universe and the Powers That Be are kind to you in the coming year.


ME: 38
BF: 40
T: 10y, no kids, no M (by choice)
BD: 7/14/14, BF admits to PA, wants out, lies about new R.
10/1/14: I move out, BF lies about move in with OW
12/4/14: OW confronted, reveals all the lies
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Same to you Little, Happy New Year.


M:44, W:46, S:10
M 13 years, T 15
BD:23/7/2014
W/S Moved to MIL: 23/7/2014
My new place: 21/11/2014
W/S back to flat 22/11/2014
W coming closer, talking 4/2015
Piecing 5/2015
Moving in again 6/2015
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