Riding the rollercoaster

[Hurt06]

Dawgy, just found your thread. Your sitch is almost identical to mine....so much so it's scary. I too have suggested that she move out but she says she will never leave the kids so we are stuck. We are in same bed but back to back and house is cold as ice. Just trying keep thing nice for the kids. Now that holidays are over not sure what's next. My job requires me to be gone out of town for 4-5 nights a week and I have taken time off to work on my family and obviously need a job change to be there for the kids no matter what happens. I too am trying to detach and get on with my life while being available in case she wants to reconcile but she is living in an alternate reality. She is Affectionate with the children in every way.... Almost weird. One of her primary love languages is affection and she is filling that need with the kids....it's a little scary how much she rubs on them and at times makes me a little uncomfortable. The best she can do for me is an ice cold, fake hug every few days.... Very weird.
Anyways, thanks for posting and nice to here others are Ina very similar sitch and what works and what doesn't.