They really do have to hit rock bottom before they can realize what they are doing. So don't get in her way of that. It took me so long to start really listening to the great people on this board. I remember the first couple days posting on here and my H and I were going to meet. One of the guys that has helped me from the beginning told me to only go if I could be happy and not have any R talk. Well I totally didn't listen. Got roped into a R talk that ended with him leaving me crying in a parking lot. Once I got my act together I started to feel so much better and when I really started letting go (not that I ever fully did) my H felt it too. We actually talked about it a lot in the beginning and he can pin point down moments and dates that he started noticing changes in me and it really coincided with things I posted here.
If nothing You will come out a better person. I cannot emphasize enough that women want a strong man's man. Do not be her friend or her back up plan. Be the friendly neighbor that's busy out GALing. She will wonder what you're up to. She has to feel like she's losing you. If she thinks she still has you she will continue to go about Her life because she knows you are still there. Still will tug on the string every once in awhile to make sure you're still there.
