Hi Kat, you are right. Somewhat surprisingly my W appears primarily focused on her best friend's cancer and not on how this effects her.
I say surprisingly because of my W's MLC, which can make her to be self-focused - I say this given her reaction to my recent health scare. I do not know W's best friend very well, and so I will not contact her directly.
I tested the water, so to speak, as my last interaction with W was before Thanksgiving when she insisted we complete our divorce, and then just dropped it. So I learned nothing from contacting my W, and I will continue this week having no-contact with her.
